Homework police. Personal chauffeur. Family chef. Avid sports fan. Sturdy shoulder to lean on. A constantly flowing spigot of love with no off switch.
When you were growing up, your parents were, well…all the above. And those are just a few of the support roles for which you can thank them.
Those amazing people who raised you have reached a crossroads. Their little chickadees – you – have grown up and flown the coop. If they haven’t said their final farewells to office colleagues, they will be toasting that milestone soon. They are still living in the family home, which has become a drain on their energy and finances.
If they were standing on a map, they would be planted at the intersection of past and future, contemplating their next chapter.
They may not have broached the subject with you, but they know it is time to make a bold move. They would very much like to jettison your old home, AKA the money pit, and embrace the joys of a senior living community.
So, the question: How can you help? That’s both an easy and a hard question to answer. Clearly, it’s your turn to assume a support role. But how do you go about turning those generational tables? Here are a few tips to get the rightsizing ball rolling.
Start With a Supportive Conversation
Your parents may be reluctant to tell you they want to dump the home you grew up in. Even adult children can have a difficult time breaking that attachment. Remember this is not about you. Your job is to be part of the solution, never the problem. Be the first to broach the subject and assure your parents you are fine with them moving on. Let them know you are excited to help them find a happy new environment to call home.
Be Respectful
The most important part of your conversation with your parents is listening to what they have to say. Your kindness and compassion as they sort through the steps of this milestone process will go a long way. Don’t try to dictate or become adversarial. Instead, offer practical help with physical tasks, such as sorting through clutter and packing. You can also be of assistance by contacting realtors, movers and reading over apartment leasing agreements. Whether or not your parents want you to be involved at that level is up to them.
Be Tech Support
The easiest way to search for Overture senior living apartment communities is online. Grab your parents’ laptop and start that search engine. Together you can compare locations, living spaces, amenities and community demographics. You can even help them set up a family tour. Your parents will appreciate your input.
Start Planning Your Visits
Once you’ve helped the folks move and get settled into the Overture senior living apartment community of their choice, your next job will be planning your visit. You and the kids will love spending time with your parents, enjoying Overture’s resort worthy grounds and facilities. Whether splashing around in the Olympic sized pool, playing family Monopoly in the designated game room, or just relaxing in their comfy upscale apartment, you can count on quality family time.
Before you head home, why not stop at Happy Hour to raise a glass with your parents and meet their new friends? You will rest assured knowing they are in great company.
Rest assured, with you and the Overture family on their team, your parents will know they are exactly where they are meant to be.